Tips On How to Date Success If You Want To Marry It Soon, Fall In Love With It, Stay In Love, and Stay Married
Success is a serious commitment. And c’mon, success is not some loose character or a playboy. How do you date success, fall in love with it and stay married? Success has depth. It seeks a meaningful and long-term relationship with you. It wants to marry you. But for that to happen, you need to date!
Date success every day.
Let me explain.
We marry someone we love. We fall in love when we invest in them. We build a strong relationship through good and tough times. It doesn’t fall like an apple from the tree.
Gravity doesn’t always help.
And this is the truth. You need to build a relationship with success as well before it marries you. Before it is yours completely. You need to go on dates, celebrate anniversaries, fight and make love with it. You need to see it every day and dream and fantasize. I mean, give it enough time, heart and soul. You need to create and feel an intimate connection with success already. Success doesn’t like casual. It wants to be taken damn seriously.
Steve Jobs said, “If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.“
That long time is what I call the “dating period”. The time of utter desperation, investment of energy and engendering of ideas, the butterfly feeling on the stomach while waiting for the results, the crazy fights with your mind followed by working it out and the undisturbed faith in the relationship throughout.
A Perfect Dating Story
Let me share a beautiful story, the story of a man I am profoundly inspired by.
Boman Irani, today is a successful and triumphant Indian film actor. But his success has a long dating history. As a child, he was shy, had a speech defect and was dyslexic. His father died the same year he was born. His mother used to run a small shop, a battered shop to feed the family and pay debts.
When Boman grew up, he thought he could be a waiter and joined the Taj Mahal Hotel. When asked, which department would he like to join, he said, “The Rendezvous.” The Rendezvous is the top department in the entire Hotel. His strict Parsi Manager laughed at him and made him start from the basement (lower than the ground!). But he used to work the chores in the best way he could.
The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won’t. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.”
– Barack Obama
Finally, he did reach “The Rendezvous”. When his mother met with an accident and couldn’t run the shop, he sat in the shop for 14 years of his life. And he happily celebrated that. He made the best wafers in his place. So much, that the smell of it used to drive people towards his shop. From a mere worker, he became the Manager of his little shop. The more he moved closer to success, the more his desire to succeed grew.
Speed is relative. You have to live it. You can’t just jump into it. You have to live it all the time.
– Mario Andretti
Being a big sports lover since childhood, he bought himself a camera and started shooting cycle races and athletic matches. His photography began to pay him as well. Because again, he was damn good at it. He decided to shoot at the World cup Match in Mumbai. After much difficulty, he was assigned to a Norwegian coach. He gave his best and headed home with an unexplainable faith. On reaching, he got an international call. The German person on the phone said that the photographs were phenomenal and he made $900 — three times what he was expecting. Not just this. He kept receiving $900 again and again as others reused his photos. This, he believes was a miracle in his ordinary life.
I never dreamed about success, I worked for it.”
– Estee Lauder
He wanted a more serious relationship with success now. So he opened his studio. And unseeingly, new doors to victory. Shiamak, one of the best dance choreographers visited his studio once. He was astounded to see the zeal in Boman’s eyes, and the fire in his belly. He soon introduced Boman to the world of theatre, shortly after which, he started doing several musicals, and theatres, the good ones and the bad ones but with all his heart and soul, until finally, he did a movie that made him the man we know today. He became the “Best Actor in a Comic Role” for the movie and a shining star. The world rejoiced his success.
This is what I am talking about.
Could you see how passionately he dated for years?
The Three Secrets
I know it is up to you and your success as to how you want to date. I do not want to interfere. But still, I am going to share some secrets to make your job a little simpler. I am going to tell you the three things that success absolutely loves! So you better not skip them.
Success Loves Speed
Do not wait for the correct time and the correct opportunity to come to you. Because they never come. You must create them. You must open the tunnel for your creative energy to start flowing from within you to the world around. And then, just go with the flow.
Everything that you do in a day must align with your bigger dream, goals, and purpose.
They must reflect your ultimate intention. If you want to be a sportsman, play each day. If you want to be a Chef, cook each day. If you want to be a writer, write each day. Just do! Let it flow through you.
Success Loves Persistence
As I said earlier, Success is not some loose character. It will deny you for several times. It won’t reply to your text message the first time you send it. You might need to call and call back a few times and wait for the reply for days and months and years. You might get frustrated at times. But keep going. Your persistence is what will to grab its attention. Success only loves people who do not give up. Show it your art of embracing fall!
Success Loves Joy
Everybody does, isn’t? So does Success. It loves that little flirtatiousness you bring to the table. So enjoy while you are on the date. Play. Have fun. Infect the world by your majestic energy. Success will come to you only if it knows that you can be fun to be with. It doesn’t like a pessimistic old soul.
Please. We have waited enough for the right ones to come to our life and change it forever.
I am giving you your “right one” today – Success.
And make sure success falls in love with you to marry you soon.
See you on the other side of Success Dating Story!
You can speed up your life if you want to, that’s easy. Winding down is what’s hard.
– Jennifer James
Further reading: Does success love speed?
Feature Photo Photo by iSAW Company from Pexels
Its Your Turn
What am I leaving out of these secrets on how to date success till you fall in love and remain married to it?
How have you been dating success so far?
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This is a Guest Post by Ankita Saha, a writer at AsktheBigQuestion.com. Her short stories and poetry on various episodes of life have won great recognition. A software engineer by day and a writer at night, she is otherwise found reading books or with nature. Connect with her on social media by following on Twitter and Instagram.